Post by David Dalton
Years ago I mailed a lock of my hair to Sarah McLachlan.
Miss McLachlan is an impressive artist, but I think that she has enough hair.
Post by David Dalton
What would you suggest she do with the lock of hair
to break the link between us (or if there is no such
link, to stop my obsession with her)? I suggested
in a very short poem accompanying the lock of hair
that she apply fire.
It is YOUR obsession and YOUR responsibility to control or eradicate it. You seem to understand part of the solution but are heading off in the wrong direction.
To break an obsession is simple, (you don't even need a razor-wire shrine). Take a single hair from YOUR own body. It does not matter which, how much it can even be an eyelash. IMPORTANT NOTE! Detach the single hair from your body! Pluck, cut or yank - it does not matter how you create this offering, but in order to use fire to create change you start by creating a safe barrier between yourself and the offering of your body.
Create a cleansing ritual space. For this you will need:
a bowl, some water, a candle and some way to light the candle.
If you are doing this inside then you can take a piece of string that is long enough to create a circle around yourself and have space to work. 8 meters should be enough. I prefer to use white cord. If you are outside then mark off the circle in a non-destructive way. Chalk on stone, a line in the sand, anything that does no harm.
Put the bowl on the bowl in the middle of where you are going to work and stand the unlit candle in the middle of it. Pour a few millimeters of water into the bowl, (if the candle falls over, then you can stand it up with small stones.)
Step into the circle, (I tie the ends of the rope together from inside of the circle, or finish the line in the sand.)
Sit in any position that is comfortable, (it is ok to change position when you need to) and Light the candle.
Look into the flame for a few seconds. Let the issue, the addiction arrive naturally in your mind. Then watch as it drifts away. Imagine writing the name of the problem on a huge sandy beach and then watch as the sea cleans the idea from your mind. Bring the idea back again but this time notice that the images are a little bit more transparent. They are also smaller. Keep looking into the flame as you see the images and ideas fade away. Work really hard to bring the desire back, (this is YOUR stray emotion that you have mistakenly attached) and notice that Each time that you blink it is just like the sea washing that beach clean. Leaving it pure and ready for something more productive. Even if you try to hold onto the addiction with each blink it is simply gone. Each time your mind is reminded or it your connection is weaker and it is fine to enjoy the memory of how you were because you can see how much better you are becoming.
When you are ready to finally break the power that YOU have given to this idea simply let the flame break the connection by burning the end or the middle of your offering. You don't even have to burn the entire thing because the connection is as delicate as an idea and you chose to no longer be controlled by it.
If there is any part of the hair left then let it fall into the water and use the water to extinguish the candle. This is like sealing the tomb so that the problem can not come back.
Then you are free to break the circle and use the water to feed some plant. You can do this with other people, but I've always found it more effective to do on my own.
Take your time with this, and you can even repeat it for each of the aspects and versions of yourself.
One last thing to note. Safety, safety, safety. Flames are powerful and can be dangerous. If you use a match to light the candle then drop it into the water. If you use something else then put it on a stone to keep it from damaging anything.
After that you should be able to surface and feel ready for some ice-cream.
Strength and peace.